My husband decided that I had no right to be tired, saying that I was just changing diapers all day. He discovered firsthand that he was wrong

My husband decided that I had no right to be tired, saying that I was just changing diapers all day. He discovered firsthand that he was wrong – Lifee.cz

Men can be terribly egotistical. They think that because they work, they deserve peace. They don’t understand that taking care of a small child can be more exhausting than physical work. Am I generalizing? Maybe, but my own experience is just that. My husband Daniel (29) is ahe thought I was just lying there the whole time. As I collapsed from exhaustion, he accused me of faking it. “What really made you so exhausted? Changing diapers and powdering the butt?” he asked. He couldn’t, or maybe didn’t want to, understand how hard it was for a woman who had to take care of an infant and take care of the household at the same time. I had no choice but to switch roles with him…

She doesn’t understand what taking care of a child entails

“good to see you home“I was relieved to hear that Daniel had returned from work.”Look after my little one, because my potatoes are about to boil.He looked surprised.Is dinner not ready yet?he asked in a disgruntled tone.

“And when exactly was I supposed to do it? Taking care of a child is a full-time job. I still had to wash and hang the laundry. Baby clothes don’t wash themselves, you know?“

“That’s unbelievable! A man comes home tired and hungry from work and still has to wait,” he complained.

“What are you talking about?“

“About sitting at home all day and changing diapers. That can’t be too difficult. You could at least try to have dinner ready when I get back.“

“Isn’t it challenging? I have a lot of work to do. I don’t have to listen to your complaints.“

“Overworked. Oh yeah!“

“Do you think you could do better?“

“Of course! I would like to take a break from work. After all, taking care of a child is a piece of cake. Knowing you, you probably slept with your little one for half the day and now you’re just pretending to be tired because it seems awkward…“

We were woken up by the nanny crying

I love Daniel, 28, but he can be such a jerk sometimes, especially when he’s hungry. Caring for a baby is a piece of cake… that’s it! Men have no idea how hard it is to be a mother, especially in the first months after giving birth. They imagine that small children sleep all day and we have a lot of time to take care of the household and also find time for ourselves.

Our Amálka is a cute creature, but at night she turns into a little devil. At first she woke up every two hours as if there was an alarm clock in her brain. Later she started waking up every three to four hours, but that was little consolation when one collapses with fatigue.

“Now it’s up to you” I said to Daniel one night when the babysitter cried. “Forget it. I’ve been working all day and I need to sleephe said sleepily.But tomorrow is Saturday. you can get some sleep“I didn’t give in.”No way. You rested all day, so take care of it” he said and didn’t even open his eyes.

Did I have a choice? I had to get up. Besides, after his remark about “all-day rest” I couldn’t close my eyes anyway. I was too angry. I changed my daughter’s diaper and soon managed to calm her down. I sat with her and thought. What can I do to make Daniel understand that taking care of a child is not such an easy task? I thought and thought until I finally got a brilliant idea…

I wanted her to try babysitting

In the morning I asked him if he still thinks that taking care of a child is a piece of cake. “Of course. There is nothing tedious or complicated about changing nappies,he said arrogantly.So let’s switch rolesI suggested.What do you mean?” he looked at me curiously.

“I will give up my maternity leave and go back to work. You will go to paternity day.“

“don’t be crazyhe snorted.What do you really want to prove?“

“You are afraid? I knew you were all talk, but when it comes to breaking bread, you show yourself to be a weakling.“

“Weakling? Good. I accept the challenge.“

It was easier than I thought. All it took was a little nudge to his male ego. It may sound like I’m risking the child’s well-being to prove my truth, but I’m not at all. Daniel may be a jerk, but that doesn’t mean he isn’t a caring father. I was not afraid that Amálka would not receive the necessary care in my absence.

He spent the whole day with his daughter

I love my daughter, but I would like to go back to work. I missed my colleagues and desperately needed a break from the chaos at home. Nevertheless, I agreed with my husband that he would first try it himself on Sunday. I went to visit my parents and wanted to enjoy a free day.

My thoughts were with Amálka anyway. “how are you doing“I sent Daniel a message. I waited a good hour for an answer. “Everything is under control” he wrote back. Clearly. If he wasn’t completely overwhelmed, he would have answered right away.

I was home at about 4:30 p.m. I walked into the hall and before my eyes was a picture of destruction. There was laundry on the floor in the bathroom that he hadn’t managed to sort out. Diapers were scattered in the living room. The daughter was crying and he was singing her a lullaby. He didn’t even hear me coming.

“give her to me” I said with a smile and took Amálka to me. I calmed her down within five minutes. Daniel had this strange expression as if he was scared. I could clearly see, not only by him, but also by the state of the apartment, that it took him a while.

He understood what taking care of a child entailed

Maybe I should feel sorry for him, but instead I felt contentment. I was glad that he finally experienced firsthand that taking care of a child is just as exhausting as work. I probably should have let it go, but I didn’t. I wanted to play my part until the end.

“Is dinner not ready yet?” I asked, quoting his own words. “Are you making fun of me? When was I supposed to cook something?He rolled his eyes. “I don’t know and I don’t care” I said in a serious tone. “I came home from work, tired and hungry as a wolf. I want something to eat.“

“Do you realize how busy I was today?” he asked almost crying. I should have continued to play hard, but in the end I couldn’t take it. I had to cover my mouth with my hand to suppress the laughter and not to wake the little one. “What made you laugh so much?he asked suspiciously. “You made me laugh, honey. You were so tough. And one day was enough for you to be at the bottom. Just imagine that’s just the beginning.“

“That’s really not funny.“

“Say it already…“

“What can I say?“

“That you were wrong. That taking care of a child and a house is hard work…“

“I admit,he whispered.

“Excuse me? I did not hear you.“

“I admit it. You were right and I was wrong” he said in a normal voice this time. “I’m sorry, I acted like a jerk.“

“That’s what I wanted to hear. Throw the laundry in the washing machine and I’ll make dinner. Together we will deal with everything quickly…“

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