Losing a baby, at any stage of development, is very painful for parents. It’s hard to empathize with their feelings. Icelandic actor and bodybuilder Hafþór Júlíus Björnsson, known as The Mountain from Game of Thrones, shared this painful experience with his wife Kelsey Henson in his Instagram post on Friday.
Unfortunately, miscarriages happen, but when it happens later than the first trimester, everything is even more complicated. A woman is already experiencing pregnancy much more, her belly is growing, she feels movements… The whole family and those around her are expecting a baby to be born soon and everyone is looking forward to it. Saying goodbye to a baby is all the more painful.
The Icelandic actor and his wife shared sad and touching photos in which they are captured in the first and at the same time the last moment they could spend with their premature daughter. They explained the circumstances in a long caption. “It is with great sadness that we announce the birth of our daughter, Grace Morgan Hafthorsdottir, who was born on November 8th at 21 and a half weeks gestation. After a noticeable decrease in movements, we discovered that her heart had stopped beating,” wrote sad parents. “Words cannot describe our pain at this loss or our happiness at being able to spend time with her. She is absolutely beautiful, with blonde eyelashes and eyebrows and a little smile for mom and dad. The love we feel for her is overwhelming.” they continued. “The grief we feel will be with us forever, but so will the love. All our hopes and dreams for her have been taken from us, but I know we will be with her again. Her spirit lives on through us and her siblings.” added the couple, who already have a three-year-old son Stormur together, in an emotional post.
It may seem to some that such a farewell after the birth of a stillborn child will cause even more trauma to the parents, but according to experts, it is the opposite. “Women usually don’t want to see the baby at the first moment, they are afraid that it will hurt them even more. But in my experience it’s just the opposite. A woman who gave birth to even a dead child is hormonally full of love. When she has the opportunity to see and bury the baby, it is a natural completion of the entire birthing process for her psyche and body.” the certified doula explained Anna Vrsnik in ours conversation on this painful topic.