After 12 years of relationship, I decided to propose to my girlfriend. It ended completely disastrously

After 12 years of relationship, I decided to propose to my girlfriend. It ended completely disastrously – Lifee.cz

For twelve whole years, I thought that Eva (35) was the one. It’s been a long time since I last heard about her. But I missed one thing, and that is that I am obviously not good enough for her and she has completely different priorities in life than I do.

I felt like I knew my girlfriend like the back of my hand

We traveled half of Europe together, visited China and Argentina. We have managed difficult situations, like when our documents were stolen in Mexico or when my mother died a few years ago. I always knew that Eva was there for me and I could count on her. I really like her and I wanted to spend my life with her. Just the fact that we lasted more than twelve years together means something.

However, what most of my acquaintances found strange was the fact that we never lived together. Eva had her own apartment and so did I. However, it meant nothing. For the last seven years, I was baking and cooking at Eva’s place, I had my wardrobe, my toothbrush, and it was the same as if we lived together, with the only difference being that I sometimes went home.

I decided to propose to my girlfriend

But in recent months, I’ve found that I want a little more from life than just a sleepover. I want to live with Eva, I want to live with her and start a family, I would like to grow old with her, and therefore the only possible option came to mind. I have to marry her.

So I came up with the perfect plan, where and how I would propose to her. I booked us a table at a romantic restaurant, and when we walk to her house, I will. I’m going to ask her to marry me. I bought a beautiful ring and he was pretty sure he couldn’t turn me down. Especially after so many years. But Eva never ceases to surprise me. When I finally spoke up, she said no.

I would like some certainty at my age

“That’s very nice of you, but I don’t think we’re ready for this type of relationship. I would be very happy if things between us were as they have been until now,” she told me as I stood there scalded. I couldn’t believe that we all see our future differently. I want a family and a background, Eva wants it to remain non-binding between us.

It makes me sad. Especially since I got it so horribly wrong. That leaves me with two options, either I break up with Eva, or I stay with her and respect her wishes and hope that she will change her mind over time. But I’m over thirty, I want to have some certainty in my life, I don’t want to be the same as when I was twenty-two.