When I was expecting my daughter, my husband walked around like a body without a soul. Then, completely contrite, he admitted to me what was bothering him

When I was expecting my daughter, my husband walked around like a body without a soul. Then, completely contrite, he admitted to me what was bothering him – Lifee.cz

Ondřej (32) was overjoyed when I told him in October that I was pregnant. We both wanted to have a family and my pregnancy brought us a little closer to that dream. There is only one catch, Ondřej would like a boy.

A friend was convinced we were having a boy

The announcement that we were expecting a girl took a lot out of him. From the first minute he found out about the baby, he expected it to be a boy. “I’ll take him to soccer and teach him to work around the house,” he planned his future. I tamed him a little. I knew there was a 50/50 chance, but Ondřej didn’t want to be talked out of it.

“He’s a bright little boy, only boys are born in our family. You know that brothers have the same boys too,” he told me. I was careful. Maybe already at the beginning of my pregnancy, I suspected that it would be different than Ondřej dreamed, and that we were expecting a girl.

A friend confessed to me that he is afraid of girls

The doctors later proved me right. It was clear on the ultrasound that we were expecting a girl. Ondřej was devastated by the news. He suddenly started acting strangely. Of course he didn’t show anything in front of me. Not once did he tell me that it bothered him, that he would prefer a boy, but it was clear to me from his behavior.

I mined it for about a month. But eventually he opened up to me. “I have no idea how to raise girls. I’m afraid of it. What if I screw something up? With a boy, I at least have an idea of what he might enjoy, what he might like. I really don’t know about girls,” he told me straight out. I felt sorry for him, but I tried to encourage him.

I’m glad he told me how he felt

“Just because we’re expecting a girl doesn’t mean she won’t like boy things. Just like with a boy, you can play with toy cars with her. You can take her to soccer. Do not worry. Like if he was a boy and he would hate all the things you think he would enjoy. You would regret it all the more” I told him.

I’m so glad he shared with me how he feels. It is not easy to admit that you would rather have a boy than a girl, or vice versa. Few people around will understand. They will immediately tell you to be happy that the baby is healthy and not to deal with banalities like gender.