When I was young, it was clear what men were for in the world, and what the ideal man should look like. To carry heavy loads, to protect us from raiders, to invite us to dinners and then pay for those dinners for us, to lust for fast cars, and to fight wars for us.
The girls feinted, painted and twisted themselves in all kinds of ways for the sake of the boys, and the boys skilfully or clumsily overtook the girls. We knew that all the flirting and seducing and dating was towards finding a husband and having children with him, and all together, men and women, we built families, furnished apartments, built houses, raised children, weeded gardens and cultivated cottages , they worked, went skiing or on vacation and helped each other at work, in joy, in sickness and in old age.
Entire generations before us did it, as evidenced by chronicles, novels, poems, paintings, compositions, films, fairy tales and folk literature. In human history, from time to time there have been cruelties that people carried out against each other individually, but also in groups, horde against horde, nation against nation. All relationships were not idyllic, and women were sometimes victims, but also perpetrators of terrible acts (for example, the famous travička or Czech murderers Olga Hepnarová and Dana Stodolová). Women have a complicated and difficult life, but life has always been much crueler to men. After all, it was they who died more often in wars, skirmishes, and street violence, once and finally even today – 80% of the victims of all murders are men (see here), they are many times more represented among drug addicts, homeless people, prisoners and suicides.
But back to the relationship between men and women. Something has changed since my youth and it was caused by feminism and us women. Girls look at boys differently today: they don’t expect men to defend them, but they aspire to hold a gun and command armies themselves. They do not need carriers of heavy loads – they are proud of their own muscles and on the contrary refuse help. They do not desire to be seduced and invited to dinner; on the contrary, they react with hurt when the boy is about to pay for a joint dinner. They are proud of their independence and loudly proclaim that they do not need any man to live. After all, they can have a child in another way – after forty, assisted reproduction. The world today simply belongs to women, they manage it, influence it, moderate it and command it. It is no longer about cooperation, about the need of both sexes, about the desire for connection, because only in connection is perfection. Quite the contrary: today the modern struggle is against and between the sexes. And the men are the ones on the pillory. Men, their masculinity, their natures.
They are said to be the ones who rape us, limit us, steal from our work, abuse our goodness, torture us and hurt us in every way, push us into the household and children and the most interesting thing, they don’t let us go. And so the new young modern and progressive women croak about quotas, insist on positive discrimination, on concessions instead of equality, on abortion rights, on benefits, on considerations, on excuses and on preferences. What morals, ethics, decency and good manners once ensured without problems, today they want to enshrine it in laws and they want to reeducate men. We have our rights and you just listen.
What is the result? Men must tame themselves, control their instincts and natures, they must give birth and care for children, they must obey and respect that they bear the guilt of all previous men in this world, for murdering women, for raping, for power, for the wrong look, touch, joke, for irony. Men have simply messed it up in the past, so now the hammer of justice needs to be swung the other way. And so the women took it firmly in hand, and for some time now they will take revenge on the men for all the atrocities, real and imagined, which their ancestors committed on the poor women. What about the fact that today’s men are not to blame? What about the fact that the majority of Czech society is already so far feminized that a guy won’t even dare to invite a young girl for a drink or approach her on the street, on the tram or on a bench, which was quite common, nice and exciting in my youth.
So today, men don’t want fast laps and fights in the ring, and instead of looking at girls, they prefer to watch porn at home. They don’t have sex (see for example here) and they don’t even desire it (see for example here). Actually, I’m not even surprised. Young boys are afraid of women. They read so much about women’s rights, about rape, about MeToo, about what they are not allowed to do, how to control themselves, or what trauma they can cause to a woman. Surprisingly, today’s young strong female fighters and generals can be hurt with a look, a word, a gesture, a smile. Everything that used to be common and normal can now be considered hurtful, therefore unacceptable.
Once a woman was associated with kindness, tenderness, care and concern. Those beautiful attributes of femininity are not enough for today’s feminists. They demand priority, the right to their own opinion regardless of the feelings of others, the right to make a selfish decision, “because I want to.” And what I don’t want, what I don’t like, I don’t have to do.”
I feel sorry for you, dear young aggressive woman. Who are you actually painting, pretending and performing for today? Who do you buy more cosmetics for (see here)? Emancipation freed women, but it also changed men. The decent guys are gone, nobody needs them. What is left for women today? Friend? Subordinate? Obedient slave? Softened sensitive?
So today you got what you wanted?
The author is an independent senator and president of the Union of Family Advocates
